What I mean when I say “Self Love”

I think about half of my blog posts started out as a Facebook comment to somebody’s status. Today a good friend of mine posed a really great thought about self love being humanistic and self worship. Then she said some really beautiful words. ‘Help me think through this.’

So let’s think through this.

(Somehow this blog post got deleted, but I don’t want to lose the wonderful comments, so I will leave it here for now and perhaps one day rewrite it.)

6 thoughts on “What I mean when I say “Self Love”

  1. ❤ I think everything you said, and how you said it is the same way I believe. And I like that you even titled it, "WHAT I MEAN WHEN I SAY SELF LOVE," even though I definitely already knew what YOU meant. 🙂

    I think the things you're saying, say "I love who God made me to be," and there's no humanistic self worship in that.

    I'm still not comfortable with the phrase, because of what it can imply, but I know YOU and YOUR HEART, and I don't think you are worshiping yourself. 😉


    1. Thanks so much for getting this conversation started and for reading and commenting! This is why it’s so important to listen to each other. Because you could’ve easily dismissed me and this whole kind of movement of self love based on your presumptions. But once you hear me out you see that we really are preaching and practicing the same things (or at least trying to).

  2. I love THIS 🙂 I agree with everything you’re saying here. A few additional thoughts…

    I think self-love in a physical sense also stems from respecting and loving our bodies because they are the temple of God. We eat healthy, exercise, don’t self-harm, etc. because we believe God dwells in us and we are created in His image, thus, we are worth taking care of.

    In my Critical Thinking class, we talk about “mature care ethics.” In a nutshell – the recognition that taking care of yourself enables you to better care for others. You can’t keep pouring if your cup is empty. I think that’s something women in particular really mess up a lot of the time.

    As you say, love begets love. When we choose to accept and embrace the love God has for us, we can love ourselves and, in turn, love others. It’s hard to be a loving person when you are mired in self-doubt or even self-loathing. Those open the door for jealousy and anger and bitterness. While I can see how self-love could turn into pride or selfishness, so long as it’s rooted in God’s love, it’s a good thing.

    1. Yes! You can’t pour from an empty cup. It’s like on an airplane when they tell you in case of emergency to put your mask on before helping those around you. If I’m not physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally healthy I’m not going to be of very much use to anyone.

  3. I love this. I just read a quote from Gordon B. Hinckley that said, “No woman can afford to demean herself, to belittle herself, to downgrade her abilities or her capacities. Let each be faithful to the great, divine attributes that are within her.” There’s this idea in the world that in order to be “humble,” we have to totally strip ourselves down and call ourselves worthless. And I’ve seen SO MANY women that I respect treat themselves that way, and it breaks my heart. Every person has divine attributes that can bless the world, and recognizing that about themselves enables them to use those divine attributes more effectively. And like you said, we can love the good things about ourselves while still recognizing that there are ways to improve. In fact, I don’t think I could handle seeing all the improvement I need without knowing that there are at least a few good things about me as well! Both are needed to move onward and upward.

    1. Yes! Good word! Tonight at Bible Study we were studying Esther and I thought about how much courage it took for her to go before the king without being called. She had to believe in herself – believe in her God, yes, but believe in the Godness in her – to do something so bold and to save her people. People who love themselves, who take care of themselves and celebrate themselves and better themselves, are the game changers.

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